By Meghna Biswas
It's such an energetic and buzzing atmosphere on social media these days. With so many people finally coming out of their cocoons and happily sharing their quarantine status, memes and pictures. I see them all excited for the post lockdown scenario.
I also realised how good people are at hiding things. In this fast world more than fighting with the outside world, this generation is busy fighting with their inner selves. Everyone wants to be someone and no one is ever content with whatever they have. This is what gave birth to the term of social acceptance in today's world. Earlier it had a different meaning but today its meaning is decided by social media. Many of us keep posting stories on Instagram to show how happening our lives are but only a few are out there truly enjoying the life that they are portraying.
We all have tried being the ideal kid.
But that wasn't how it should have been. We all are busy seeking everyone's approval and trying to be the best everywhere. People envied us, many loved us and some turned out to be snitches as we grew up.
It was difficult for some of us to cope up with all this. That time we hardly had the guts to tell our parents that we were stressed and needed help. We all were trying to escape our emotions while maintaining a headstrong personality for the world to see. But it's not just this generation's fault. Throughout our childhood, the majority of us are compared to someone or the other. As we grow older, comparisons lead to jealousy and at such a volatile age we tend to do blunders without realising how much it might affect someone.
Some people lose faith in themselves and get depressed while maintaining their personality for everyone else, and many end up taking a drastic step.
And you know why no one is there to stop or support them? It is because our elders have always told us to mind our own business and to not poke our nose in someone else’s business. This is important but not at the cost of someone else's life.
Maybe at that point, they just wanted to hear that things will be fine and that it’ll be better.
Maybe they just wanted assurance from their parents that it's okay to fail sometimes and get up again.
Maybe they too wanted to be loved by someone.
But our judgemental nature won't let that happen.
We don't want to waste our time listening to someone who is in pain.
Many will deny this but this is indeed true.
Since childhood, we have been shown what is beauty and what is ugly, this is fat and that is thin or that this is intelligent and that is dumb. Television is equally responsible for this. It was not in anyone's hand to control their physical appearance. Instead of these career counsellors in our country who decide our potential to do science, commerce or arts, our youth needs genuine counsellors who just help us to accept ourselves the way we are in this era of Instagram and Twitter.
If the elders need to change their mindset, we too need to change ours and become more realistic instead of living in our social world.
Sometimes it's okay to be chubby and it's fine to be a disappointment, it's fine to cry being an adult, it's fine to go after a person after breaking up, it's fine to binge food in stress, it's fine to fall, it's fine to get angry, it's fine to have pimples and it's just fine to not be okay.
We need to love ourselves first and accept ourselves before changing anyone else.
I would end this by saying no matter what happens, who leaves, who stays, who breaks your heart, who stands by you, it is your fight and life and only you have to deal with it no matter what. This is just a chapter of the story that you are writing and in the end, we all will laugh at our mistakes and everything will be fine!
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